Can You Really Help Your Child With ADHD?

What one thing can you do, and I mean right now, to make a change in the dynamics of your household and your family?  Change the way you think of ADHD.  That’s right, change the way you think of it.  Do not think of it as something that makes your life more difficult, or more frustrating, or makes parenting a chore. 

 

Think of it as a part of your child, albeit a part you may not be very familiar with right now, and thus not super adept at dealing with, but that can change, and quickly.

 

Once you learn to embrace ADHD and the incredible gift that it is, you will see miraculous changes start to take place.  I’m telling you, the little changes are amazing!

 

Here are just a few of the changes that families are seeing once they try these things:

 

 

·         Less yelling in the household

·         Over a 30% increase in grades in less than 6 weeks

·         Went from 13/60 on timed math tests to 60/60 in three weeks

·         Looks forward to new school year

·         Wants to work on math, reading and writing over summer

·         Gradual acceptance, understanding, by everyone, that their behaviors are not personal, thereby reducing the negative feelings in the whole house

·         Less frustration

·         More happy times

·         Enjoying each other more often

·         Fewer arguments

·         Cleaner house (that’s right, I said a cleaner house, I’ll explain more later)

 

Now that you have a better understanding of how ADHD feels, and how you can work to re-frame it for yourself, you will begin to see some changes already happening, if you’re doing the work discussed.

 

Now, some overall belief sets that will be critical to hold to ensure that a successful and meaningful change takes place in your family:

 

·         Your child is inherently good

·         There are good, workable solutions for working with ADHD

·         The situation is hopeful, filled with wonderful possibilities

·         Your child is NOT deliberately ignoring you or making your life difficult

·         ADHD is far more difficult for your child than for you (unless you, like myself, have the pleasure of having it too)

·         You can get a break from ADHD (again, assuming you don’t also have it) by getting a break from your child, they never can

·         They want to do well, but usually do not know how

·         They lack skills to reach their potential, though they desperately want to have them

·         They tend to be perfectionistic

·         To avoid failure, oftentimes they will not try, thereby appearing apathetic, when in fact it is just the opposite, they care too much

·         Given the time, attention and faith they WILL excel beyond your wildest dreams!

·         You can ALL do ANYTHING

 

Practice functioning under these belief sets for the next several weeks and see what kind of difference you see in your family.